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* '''Trust and openness:''' we all need to be able to trust that everyone shares our commitment to creating true consensus decisions. This includes being able to trust people not to abuse the process or to manipulate the outcome of the discussion. If we're scared that other people are putting their own wishes and needs before everyone else's then we're more likely to become defensive, and behave in the same way ourselves because it seems to be the only way to look after our own interests. | * '''Trust and openness:''' we all need to be able to trust that everyone shares our commitment to creating true consensus decisions. This includes being able to trust people not to abuse the process or to manipulate the outcome of the discussion. If we're scared that other people are putting their own wishes and needs before everyone else's then we're more likely to become defensive, and behave in the same way ourselves because it seems to be the only way to look after our own interests. | ||
[[File:ConsensusOnion.gif|thumbnail|none|An onion being unpeeled - the first layer says: what i want to say; the second: what I really want; the third layer: what I actually need Making decisions by consensus is based on openness - this means learning to openly express both our desires (what we'd like to see happening), and our needs (what we have to see happen in order to support a decision). It takes time for us to learn how to distinguish between our wants and needs - after all most of us are more used to decision making where one wins and the other loses. In this kind of adversarial system we are often forced to claim we need more than we really do so we can concede points without giving up any significant ground. But if everyone is able to talk openly then the group will have the information it requires to take everyone's positions into account and to come up with a solution that everyone can support.]] | |||
* '''Sufficient time''' for making decisions and for learning to work by consensus. Taking time to make a good decision now can save wasting time revisiting a bad one later. | * '''Sufficient time''' for making decisions and for learning to work by consensus. Taking time to make a good decision now can save wasting time revisiting a bad one later. | ||